Natalie Wynn (Contrapoints) mentioned Conflict is Not Abuse by Sarah Schulman 4 times

I recently read a book by Sarah Schulman called "Conflict is Not Abuse: Overstating Harm, Community Responsibility and the Duty of Repair". Basically Schulman's argument is that, in various contexts from romantic relationships to community infighting to international politics, the overstatement of harm is used as a justification for cruelty and for escalating conflict.

— Natalie Wynn (Contrapoints)

A common symptom of trauma is hyper-vigilance. A constant alertness to danger. This is described in a very wise book called "Conflict is Not Abuse" by Sarah Schulman: - [Schulman] The traumatized person's sense of their ability to protect themselves has been damaged or destroyed. They feel endangered, even if there is no actual danger in the present, because in the past they have experienced profoundly invasive cruelty and they know it is possible.

— Natalie Wynn (Contrapoints)

That book I quoted earlier, "Conflict is Not Abuse", describes the way the overstatement of harm is used as a justification for cruelty, in situations ranging from romantic relationships to international affairs.

— Natalie Wynn (Contrapoints)

Why are so many trans people on Twitter so easily driven to extremes of rage and aggression? Well there's a passage in "Conflict is Not Abuse" that I think applies just as well to trans Twitter as it does to TERFs. - "People living in unrecovered trauma often behave in very similar ways to the people who traumatized them. Over and over I have seen traumatized people refuse to hear or engage information that would alter their self-concepts, even in ways that could bring them more happiness and integrity."

— Natalie Wynn (Contrapoints)